Continue or Start with a decision?

Posted on March 7, 2016 by Why Choose Happy

Have you ever read a biography like this “Once I made the decision to ______ everything else fell in place”. Have you felt that there was a massive amount of information being left out or glossed over from these story lines?

Are they based on either too much modesty to share the hard steps or people who choose to focus only on the outcome that they wanted when they started their journey? Could it really be that simple, get clear on a goal and go?? Experience tells me the answer is both Yes and No.

Yes because once they had committed to the goal there was no other outcome that mattered  and therefore no “real” obstacles were present from stopping them. It is a certainty they ran into roadblocks (if they did not the goal was too small) along the way. They just kept referring back to the decison in moments of doubt.

No because while the frequency of your radio can change in an instant your life’s frequency has been ingrained into you and your world view for a lot longer. I believe time is required for the effects of change to be felt and seen in your life. Give yourself time to see the changes while you hone your skills and learn new things.

One thing that is constant in almost all who achieve their goals is the act of breaking down the goal and focusing only on achieving today’s task. They take on a consistent approach over a set period of time and make adjustments along the way. They know or learn along the way the outcome is not the goal itself but who they become along the way towards the goal. (Jim Rohn paraphrased by yours truly)

Those who either set no goals or approach life with an attitude “I will do my best and see what happens” are missing this key step. The seldom take a journey of purpose and often lead lives of quiet desperation never going or learning anywhere new. How will you know you are growing without a north star to set your sail on? Life is meant to be fun and exciting.

Choose a direction and  start now. Commit to a goal and have the conviction to make a plan to achieve it either on paper or computer. (do not close this post until you do this) Next post I will share a goal I set out and the things I learned along the way.

One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to master anything in particular. Tony Robbins

 

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Sign post ahead it reads…

Posted on March 3, 2016 by Why Choose Happy

What has to happen today for it to be a success? We know that preparing for a meeting there are steps we must do to have the outcome we want. What about your “average” successful day?

What really goes into a successful day and when will we know we have reached that mark? Is it when we tell others about the things we accomplished today that make it great? Is it their reactions to the events that define it for us? Are there some people’s opinion that carry more weight than others? Why? How active of a plan do you use to “see” your day line up to your expectations? Do you have expectations of your days?

Who owns your day? Is it your boss, your environment or circumstances of the day or perhaps something else entirely? Can you say with certainty “I am fully in charge of how I feel at any given time today”? This does not mean that you will always like the things that happen but you do get to choose how to view them. Yes there will be times when some distance and cooler heads will be involved to align emotions and thoughts.

Life really is about choices. Certainly there are actions behind every decision that you make that you may not either want or be aware of the possibility of. That does not change the fact that a choice was made by you directly or indirectly. What happens when you say “I have no choice” this is still a choice in and of itself.  You chose what to think and what to say.

Your challenge is to become more aware of your choices and how you define a successful day in your life. Whether I gave you $10.00 or $1000.00 how you feel about that is up to you entirely. Maybe you think it is fantastic a virtual stranger gave me $10 bucks wow! or you could think that a cheap skate who can clearly afford to give away money “only” gave me $1000.00 why did he not give me more? The choice is always yours…

To your success in all your days.

Each one has to find his peace from within. And peace to be real must be unaffected by outside circumstances. Mahatma Gandhi

 

 

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Happy All the Time?

Posted on February 29, 2016 by Why Choose Happy

I was recently asked if there are times when I am not happy. The answer is yes there are moments and that is where choice comes in, my habit is to find the happy in any given situation.

Admittedly there are times the responses range from “I am glad this feeling will not last” or “I will be happy when this goes away” In order to Choose Happy  there must be times that are not happy and a choice is required to get to that outlook.

Have you ever heard the advice “just relax in a stressful situation?” Consider the speaker of the words is helping you and not adding gasoline to the fire of your emotions. It is known that a relaxed people suffer less injury in a crash than tense people.

Now consider the times when you find yourself doing a task without much conscious thought. Someone watching you might say “You make that look so easy” or ” I wish I could do that so well” Your reply would probably be to say that you have done it so much that it is easy for you and you just get into the “zone”.

So what happens when we put the last two thoughts together? Relax when you find yourself in a stressful situation and you will be doing something from the zone of confidence. What happens if you have not done the task before? Can you still use this advice?

When the  “How can I do this” thought occurs and doubts arise,  remember the similar tasks that you have done very well on that you can draw on for help. In time you may find yourself not stopping at the “how can I do this” phase and launch yourself into the task before you even realize you have never done this before. When those moments happen you know you were in the “zone” either by choice or habit.

So trust yourself more and when in doubt Choose Happy as your default state consistently and tasks both old and new will build up in the completed pile that much faster.

 

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What is stopping you from being Happy?

Posted on February 24, 2016 by Why Choose Happy

 

Do you ever catch yourself thinking “If I just had enough _______”_ I would be happy and life would be great.

When I do this type of thinking I ask is my “enough” blocking me from experiencing other types of happiness and joy that are already flowing towards me? Could it really be as simple as getting “enough”to feel satisfied and happy in my life?  Is it a hard and fast rule?

Is it possible to find people who have that very same “want” we are looking for that are not happy  and at peace at where their lives are? If the answer is yes then how can that thing you want be enough for happiness?

Why do we live our lives as though the next “I just need to..” is the transporter to the top of Mount Happiness? Is the bargaining, day dreaming  to get that want stopping you from enjoying what you do have?

Stop the cycle as you soon as you feel yourself going towards “If I just had ___” thinking and you will instantly  turn your frequency of gratitude and happiness up. Doing so will allow more positivity and joy to enter your life and your journey will be more fulfilling than any destination  “If I just had enough” could ever take you to.

 

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Choose Happy

Posted on February 21, 2016 by Why Choose Happy

We often convince ourselves that we “must” do this and or that without ever examining  why we “must”. Yes there are consequences (often many) for each decision we make and the decision itself is still ours to make…

The REAL choice is, are you consciously making those decisions or merely being an observer in your own life? Are you aware that if you believe you have no choice in doing something you have still made a choice?? I believe it was either Boston or Chicago that said this in a song from the seventies.

Next time you encounter a person spewing negative or hurtful thoughts towards you visualize the words sailing past you as you and duck or turn sideways to “see” the thoughts miss you and your prefered state of positiveness.

Ask them to “Choose Again” as clearly their thoughts are having a negative impact and that is not good for either their or your physical state. Should they go on to justify (Just If I …) why they have chosen a negative attitude remove yourself from their presence in order to avoid spreading such victim like thinking.

Your attitude the Only thing you are in complete control of and no one can choose how you view things period. At least not without your consent on some level so be pro-active and Choose Happy. You will live longer enjoy more luck and have  better health as just a few of the side affects of being aware of choices we all make everyday.

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